I had a brief chat with a friend today.Glad to hear,she’s back to her happy self.Earlier this year,she had undergone a divorce.Her marriage ended barely a year.But now,she’s happy,she found someone who she claimed to me,to be The One. ‘Luckily’,from her previous marriage,they didn’t have a child together,so this makes the divorce pretty much ‘easy’ to go through with (easy = no struggling with child custody).
Anyhow,what questions me a few hours ago was a statement from her. “This time,i cant wait to have babies,I wanna be just like you,have baby!And look,how happy you guys are!!” . Well,you see..of course I thanked her for the compliment,but somehow,I don’t quite agree with her in that sense. For me,you can’t judge a happy marriage for having a kid or two.
Marriage nowdays, has become more about mutual happiness and personal satisfaction.To stay happy in a marriage,having children does not neccessarily required.Although,I agree,children can be a source of personal fulfillments for parents,however it is not seen as the key to a successful marriage.So,you asked,what are the factors cited as more important to a successful marriage than children?
Faithfulness, happy sexual relationship, sharing household chores, adequate income, good housing, shared religious beliefs, emotional intimancy,shared tastes and interests. –Source:Pew Research Center
On another note,children and mariage, they tend to amplify what’s already there, making a good marriage much better and sometimes making bad marriages worse -though not always. So,it is how you deal with them together after you have them that can make or break a marriage.Marriage and Parenthood are a whole lot different issues.
Anyhow,I hope she is bless and happy in venturing her new relationship.May she marry this guy for the right reason.